Are you comfortable being yourself in any situation? Are you struggling with being true to who you are?
If you’re like most people, you are 90% yourself with close friends, 50% yourself with casual acquaintances, and less than 10% yourself around strangers.
Being your actual self in all places and situations is frightening but ultimately empowering and soothing. Imagine how relieved you’ll be.
You no longer have to care about other people’s perceptions. You can simply be yourself and be content with that.
How to Be Yourself and Regain Control of Your Life:
1. Meditate. Meditation calms the portion of your mind that judges and defines everything around you.
Regular meditation can help you gain insight into who you truly are.
2. Tell the truth. When you are truthful, you expose yourself.
Be open about your mistakes and limitations.
3. Be distinctive. The real you is not exactly like everyone else. What music do you listen to while you are alone?
How do you dress? Do you keep your unique characteristics to yourself, or do you want to share them with the world?
4. Get rid of your crutches. Rocky Road ice cream? Mindless internet surfing? A double vanilla cafe latte?
Using crutches to cope with boredom, fear, or uncertainty prevents you from perceiving reality.
What is the purpose of a specific crutch? Stop using it and check for yourself.
5. Examine elements of your life that feel inauthentic. When and where do you believe you lack authenticity?
It often occurs during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social situations, and more formal events.
Being among family members can lead to a lack of sincerity. They don’t appear to want you to change, so you revert to your previous roles.
Identify instances of inauthentic behavior and reflect on why.
6. Spend time doing things you enjoy. What do you truly enjoy? Do you play in the softball league so you can fit in?
Would you rather take rumba lessons? Spend your spare time doing the things you are most enthusiastic about.
One way of being true to who you are is by doing things you enjoy. Make it your happy time!
7. Take a risk and try something you’ve always wanted to do. If you start playing the cello or taking acting lessons, your coworkers might laugh.
However, they will be secretly envious of your courage to do something unusual.
Everyone you know feels stifled and bored. You can climb beyond all of this.
8. Share your view. Not always, but offer your viewpoint if it won’t harm anyone. Are you planning to watch a movie with some friends?
Tell them the movie you’d most like to see. Does the family wish to go to the park or the public pool?
Allow your views to be known. Your wife wants to know if she looks big in this dress. Be wise.
9. Go outside. The interior environment is unnatural. Air is either heated or cooled. The light is artificial.
You cannot see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet. Get yourself into a more natural setting, and you’ll find it simpler to be genuine.
There is nothing like spending time in nature as a way of being true to who you are!
10. Strengthen your boundaries. Where your boundaries are weak, your actual self is suppressed.
These are the venues where we let others make the rules and define the framework. You’ll recognize these areas by the quantity of energy they suck from you.
You Are Enough!
Overcome the desire to fit in and impress others. Whatever you do, some people will be impressed, while others will not.
Why worry about it? You are an awesome person. Allow yourself to be that person each day.
Record your thoughts in this Gratitude Journal once a day for twelve weeks. There is room to write three things you are grateful for, along with affirmations, an accomplishment, notes, and any appointments you wish to remember
